Dating: Four behaviours that raise major ‘red flags’ for singles looking for love

Despite the reputation dating apps have of not facilitating long-term relationships, most users say a romantic partnership is the goal when using apps like Tinder or Hinge.

More than half of men, 53 per cent, say they want a relationship, according to a 2024 Tinder report. A whopping 68 per cent of women say the same. However, almost all users surveyed — 91 per cent of men and 94 per cent of women — said dating is difficult.

So, what is happening on dates that make those who desire a relationship cut courtships short? App users identified a few red flags that would cause them to not find the other person attractive.

Getting drunk on a first date

Three-in-four singles don’t want to get drinks on a first date, according to 2022 Hinge data.

Of those surveyed, 45per cent said they prefer sober dates because they are prioritizing their mental health and 55 per cent said it helps them get to know the other person better.

What should you do instead?

Well, 17 per cent of daters on the app would rather meet for coffee. About 11 per cent would rather see a show or go to a museum and 14 per cent would rather go for a walk.

Being ‘too into’ Instagram

Those who are “too into” Instagram or Snapchat come off as self-absorbed, according to Hinge users.

That’s why 74 per cent of said don’t want to date someone who is constantly using social networking apps.

While on a date, it’s probably best to keep the phone face down.

Not knowing about politics or social issues

Being in the know about social and political issues is a huge plus for daters, according to Tinder data.

A whopping 75 per cent of singles were looking for a match who respected or was invested in social issues.

And almost half, 47 per cent of singles, said that finding out the person they are dating is a non-voter is a “deal breaker.”

This doesn’t mean your views have to totally align with those of a potential partner. Only 24% of users said they want to date someone who thinks exactly as they do and 46% said they would date someone who has different political views.

Bringing up trauma

A vast majority, 93 per cent, of Hinge users prefer to date someone who is emotionally vulnerable, according to the app’s data. They care more about this than height or income.

But, there is a right way to open up and a wrong way.

The right way is to tell stories that demonstrate your goals and values. Perhaps after a few dates, you can get into relationship history, too.

The wrong way is to bring up deep-rooted trauma too early.

Be authentic, but don’t overshare.