Steven Lin’s estranged wife reveals new relationship after dentist shot dead after attacking two women

The estranged wife of a high-profile Sydney dentist who was shot dead by police after allegedly attacking two women has revealed she has found love again, just weeks after speaking out about the breakdown of their marriage.

Steven Lin, 41, died on March 3 following a confrontation with police inside a Potts Point apartment complex.

Emergency services were called to St Neot Avenue about 10.50am after reports a man armed with a knife had attacked two women inside a unit. Police attempted to subdue Lin with a taser before an officer discharged a firearm. He died at the scene.

The two women were taken to hospital with severe injuries believed to be non-life-threatening.

In the weeks after his death, Lin’s former partner Cassandra, who separated from him in 2023, publicly detailed the collapse of their relationship, alleging it had been marred by “affairs, secrets and abuse”.

Cassandra shared a video of her new partner with her children, captioning the post, “Reminder: there is someone who will love you and your kids, and your whole story. Don’t settle.” “He found us,” she continued.

She revealed she has been in a relationship for the past six months with a man she referred to as “Jay”.

“Moving on after the trauma of what happened in my marriage has always been difficult,” she told news.com.au.

“And having small precious children, it’s been even harder to let people in because my choices also affect them.”

She said trust had been a major hurdle following the breakdown of her marriage.

“I would have bet my life on the fact that Steven would have never cheated, or ever gone to brothels,” she said.

“He used to use the moral high ground and talk about how low and sad it would be to do that. All the while, he was.”

Despite this, she said her new partner had helped restore her faith in love.

“But meeting my new partner changed all of that. He put in the effort from the beginning, letting me know that my children just meant there was more to love,” she said.

The pair met on a dating app and grew closer during the aftermath of the incident, with Cassandra saying he provided support during an incredibly difficult time.

“He’d never met a woman quite like me before,” she said.

Weeks after his death, Cassandra shared a deeply personal letter, describing both the love they once shared and the events that led to the breakdown of their relationship.

“Dear Steven, I never imagined I would be writing you a letter like this,” she wrote in a post shared to Instagram.

“I always thought if we grew old together, the words I’d say to you would be over a kitchen table, or whispered across a pillow, not spoken out loud to a room full of people who loved you.”

She described the early days of their relationship as a time of stability and connection.

“When I met you, something in me settled. For the first time in my life, I felt like I had found peace... like I had finally found home,” she wrote.

“You weren’t just the man I loved, I thought you were my soulmate, the person I believed I would walk beside for the rest of my life.”

The couple built a life together and had five children, which Cassandra said was the “greatest part” of their relationship.

“We had it all,” she wrote. “And the greatest part of that life was becoming parents.

“Watching you become a father is something I will always treasure. Our children were the apple of your eye. You loved them fiercely, proudly, completely.

“The way you looked at them, with wonder, with joy, is something I will carry with me forever. In those moments, our little family felt whole and unbreakable.”

But she said that sense of stability eventually unravelled.

“The truth is that my world came crashing down when I discovered the life you had been living behind my back,” she wrote.

“The affairs. The secrets. The abuse. The child you fathered that I knew nothing about.

“It shattered the trust I had placed in you and the future I thought we were building together. The pain of that betrayal is something I’m still learning how to carry.”

Cassandra said Lin’s death had left her grappling with complicated emotions.

“Standing here today, I’m reminded that people are never just the worst thing they’ve done, nor only the best,” she wrote.

“You were complicated. You were flawed. You made choices that hurt me deeply and changed our lives forever.

“I had to stand back and let you fight your secret war. A war which you lost in the end.”

She reflected on the conflicting memories she holds of the man she once loved.

“The man who gave me our children. The man who, for a time, made me feel safe and at home in this world. And those truths exist side by side.”

Lin, once known as a prominent dental nutritionist and author, had faced a series of legal issues in the months before his death.

He had recently appeared before Wollongong Local Court over allegations he assaulted a sex worker and stole cash, charges that were ultimately dismissed when the complainant did not attend court.

Court documents also outlined a history of alleged violent offending, including assault and choking-related matters, as well as multiple breaches of court orders.

Family members told the ABC Lin’s life had deteriorated following his separation, including struggles with drug use and his withdrawal from the dental business he once led.

Despite everything, Cassandra said her focus now remains on their children.

“So today, instead of trying to untangle all of that, I want to say this to you: I promise that I will take care of our children with everything I have,” she wrote.

“I will guide them, protect them, and love them in the way we always dreamed they would be loved.

“I will tell them stories about you, about the parts of you that made them laugh, the parts that made you their dad, the parts of you that live on in them.”

“Your story doesn’t end here, because it lives on in them,” she wrote.

“And while our path together didn’t end the way either of us imagined, I will carry forward the responsibility we began together, raising the beautiful children we brought into this world.

“Goodbye Steven, until we meet again.”