WINE CHATS: How good is giving advice? But how much does it suck receiving it?

How good is giving advice? But how much does it suck receiving it?

This week on The Nightly, we’re drinking some alcoholic juice and discussing how awesome it is when you’re chatting with someone and you find yourself giving them advice. But when they try to give us advice? No thanks, no way, no how - keep it to yourself!

Lyndsey: Billie came up with this idea. We’re going to talk about how you give and take advice.

Billi: Because I love my husband. I even like him. But I find that anytime he tries to give me advice, I get really like… even though it’s good advice…

I remember when we were younger and super good looking and fit and we used to work out together and he would try and help me at the gym or fix my form.

I wasn’t going to go here, but I was coaching people in weightlifting and CrossFit. So he’s not going to tell me what my form is going to look like. I’m going to tell him what his form is going to look like. And I was always right. And he was always wrong, but I never liked any of it. I don’t like working out with him.

Lyndsey: I feel like we need to have a whole episode just on that. Do you need to lay down on the couch? Is this..?

Billi: I’m okay. We’re not gonna need therapy today. I’m emotionally stable. But anyway, it just got me thinking, how do you give advice? How do you take advice? Does Cameron give you advice and do you enjoy it?

Lyndsey: Look, if I ask for it, of course.

I’m a funny one with advice. I love giving it. I’m happy to give my opinions and advice, whether you ask me or not. But I’m funny when people give me advice when I feel like I don’t need it.

Billi: That’s like unsolicited advice, right?

Lyndsey: Yeah. I’m like, please, I don’t need your advice. I get really funny because I think I know it all sometimes. Ask my mom. If my mom tries to give it, sorry, mom. Hi, love you. But sometimes I just don’t need her advice or anyone’s because I feel like I know it.

But I love giving it. And I love telling people my opinions and what they should and shouldn’t be doing.

Billi: Same. I love giving advice as well. And I’m really conscious when I give someone advice. I’m conscious of the fact that I’m doing it because I love to get on a pedestal and just sprout my ideas.

Billi: You get cocky with it.

Billi: I don’t get cocky with it, but inside, I’m like, all right, you need to take it down a notch, just be cool. Be cool. Because I love giving it so much. So I’m ready to come out with all my ideas.

But something sparked my thoughts when you were just talking. I think it’s funny when people try to give us advice about the podcast and it happens a lot.

And that’s fine. Sometimes we even ask, like, what do you want us to talk about? What topics are you wanting to hear from us and then people tell us and then I’m like, Oh, that’s not gonna work for us.

Lyndsey: But it’s funny though, because back to how you say Henry gives you advice when you don’t want it.

There are some people that are like Mr. and Mrs. Know it all, right? There are just some people where it’s like, Oh my God, seriously, I did not ask you. But I’m not like that, I don’t think I know everything.

I just really like giving my opinions on things when it’s sometimes not asked for. Which could be annoying for the other person, right?

Billi: Yes, and that’s what I’m saying, I’m conscious of the fact that I’m doing it, I’m trying not to get them to roll their eyes.

I like to nut things out. So I’ll probably ask lots of questions and then give advice about how you can, you know, handle certain situations. But then when somebody tries to do that to me, I’m like, seriously?

Nobody asked you and it’s not gonna work.

But I think sometimes advice is very important. Even though it can be annoying or you don’t think you like it, taking it on board is also very important, right?

Lyndsey: You need that trusted person to give you the advice that’s going to guide you in the right direction if you’re needing that type of advice.

My advice is that we hit the button before we take this episode into a whole different realm of weirdness.