NEW YORK TIMES: Body dysmorphic disorder may look like vanity, but it is a debilitating mental health issue

Mandy Rosenberg, 35, from Wisconsin, has always drawn attention because of her looks. With her long blonde hair, athletic build and large blue eyes, she was called Barbie by some of her high school peers.

But even though people often told her that she was pretty, she didn’t view herself the same way. She’d spend hours staring at a tiny blemish on her forehead that was barely visible to others. In her mind, it was a large and unsightly scar, and she would climb on top of her bathroom sink to get as close to the mirror as possible while examining it.

“If I couldn’t make that go away, I didn’t want to live anymore,” she said.

Ms Rosenberg didn’t know it at the time, but she had both obsessive-compulsive disorder and body dysmorphic disorder, a mental health condition that causes people to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about their appearance — to the point where they may isolate themselves from others and feel imprisoned in their own bodies.

People with BDD not only think they look unattractive but can become convinced that others will reject them because of their flaws.

“They often feel they’re unlovable,” said Dr Katharine Phillips, a psychiatrist and expert.

What is BDD?

Those with BDD fixate on perceived cosmetic problems that to others appear unnoticeable or minor.

But it’s not about vanity; instead, people with BDD feel extreme anguish that impairs their functioning. The disorder typically emerges during adolescence and is estimated to affect 2 to 3 per cent of the general population, but these numbers may be conservative because the disorder is under-diagnosed.

Studies have shown differences in the brains of people with BDD, said Dr Jamie Feusner, a professor of psychiatry. Some of his research has found that in those who have the condition, areas of the brain that help us view things holistically are underactive.

This might be part of the reason that people with BDD have trouble viewing their imperfections as small relative to their entire face or body. It’s akin to looking at a window with a smudge on it, then “thinking that the whole window is ruined”, Dr Feusner said.

Patients with BDD aren’t always aware that their concerns stem from a mental health problem. Instead, they often believe wholeheartedly that they have physical defects. Because of this, someone might suffer for a decade or more before seeking help from a mental health provider, said Hilary Weingarden, a psychologist in Massachusetts who studies OCD and related conditions.

“They’re going to their dermatologist and a plastic surgeon and the dentist and the aesthetician,” she said. But trying to “fix” their appearance only serves to exacerbate their anxiety in the long run.

Signs & symptoms

People with BDD may withdraw from relationships, avoid work or school, and spend an excessive amount of time on repetitive behaviours such as examining themselves in the mirror, attempting to camouflage their appearance or seeking reassurance from others.

Chris Trondsen, a therapist in Costa Mesa, California, who diagnosed Ms Rosenberg with BDD, said his patients admit to spending hours chatting with artificially intelligent bots, both seeking affirmation and asking what they ought to fix.

“If you ask a human, people are going to get fed up answering the questions,” he said.

Dr Trondsen was inspired to study psychotherapy because of his own struggle with BDD. He used to fixate on his complexion and worried that his nose was too large for his face and that his body wasn’t muscular enough, a form of BDD called muscle dysmorphia.

“I kept thinking I was getting uglier,” Dr Trondsen said.

Like many people with BDD, he also spent hours checking his body in mirrors and rarely left his apartment.

At 21 years old, Dr Trondsen became so isolated and consumed by his appearance that he attempted suicide, and might have died had his roommate not discovered him. After that, he sought help and was diagnosed with OCD and BDD.

It’s common for those with BDD to also have conditions like OCD, major depressive disorder, social phobia and substance use disorder.

Studies indicate that people with BDD have high rates of suicidal ideation and behaviour, too. One meta-analysis found that across a patient’s lifespan, about 66 per cent of those with BDD will have thoughts of suicide and around 35 per cent will attempt it.

How is it treated?

Cognitive behavioural therapy for BDD has been shown to lead to remission in more than half of patients.

It includes exposure and response prevention, which is meant to help patients gradually confront the things that they have been avoiding or the rituals they have become dependent on, such as hiding parts of their body with clothing or makeup.

Therapists try to help patients view themselves more holistically, emphasising that there’s more to them than the specific parts of their bodies they scrutinise.

The disorder can also be treated with serotonin reuptake inhibitors, often at high doses. For those with severe BDD, both medication and cognitive behavioural therapy are recommended, Dr Phillips said.

For Ms Rosenberg, cognitive behavioural therapy with her former therapist, Dr Trondsen, gradually helped her condition.

Later, as part of her treatment, she created a diagram showcasing all of the things that contribute to her identity: She is a daughter and a faithful Christian, she loves dogs and cats, she is a teacher, she is caring — she is more than just her looks.

My body, she said, “doesn’t get to determine how I go about my day”.

If you or someone you know needs help, phone the Butterfly Foundation on 1800 ED HOPE (1800 33 4673).

Lifeline: 13 11 14.

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