She hit it off with a guy she met at the bar on vacation. Then he sent her an unexpected text message

When Giuseppe Morisani first suggested it, Skyler Mapes thought she must have misread his message.

She’d met Giuseppe just over a week before, in a bar in Rome. The two strangers connected instantly: an evening drinking and dancing — communicating mostly via Google Translate — culminating in eating bowls of pasta pomodoro in Giuseppe’s friend’s kitchen at 4am, gazing at the stars out the window.

This dreamy evening was the start of a whirlwind weekend.

“We spent the next couple of days together,” Skyler tells CNN Travel today.

“It was just so nice. It was very freeing to be in Rome, to be young…”

Skyler and Giuseppe exchanged numbers but made no promises to meet again.

And then Giuseppe sent the text Skyler couldn’t quite believe:

“I really want to see you,” he wrote. “I want you to come to Calabria to meet my mum.”

A meeting in Rome

It was August 2014 and Skyler was in her early 20s, an American architecture student interning at a firm in Barcelona, Spain.

For Skyler, the summer in Europe was an amazing opportunity but one marked with mixed emotions — right before she’d left, her beloved grandmother had passed away.

“It was a very emotional time in my life,” Skyler says.

“We had a really beautiful funeral. And then I flew to Barcelona the following week.

“There were so many emotions, but it also felt really invigorating. I know my grandma would have wanted me to do that, because she was always a woman who said: ‘Go pursue your dreams, do the best you can, work hard’.”

Skyler arrived in Barcelona with her grandmother’s words echoing in her head, determined to enjoy an “incredible summer”.

She moved into an apartment with several other architecture interns and the group became fast friends. They spent long evenings enjoying Barcelona together and planned trips across Spain and farther afield.

That’s how they ended up in Rome. Skyler was swept up in the city’s beauty right away — the Roman ruins dotted everywhere, the incredible food, the buzz and the vibrancy.

And then, on her second night in Rome, Skyler crossed paths with Giuseppe in a busy bar.

Skyler was with her roommates, one of whom got chatting with the friend Giuseppe was out with.

And then Skyler and Giuseppe started talking. Their connection was palpable right away.

“Oh, he’s really cute,” Skyler recalls thinking.

But after they made their introductions, Skyler realised Giuseppe didn’t know much English, and she knew next to no Italian. The two attempted to communicate in “Spanglish” — Skyler grew up speaking Spanish, and Giuseppe understood some of the language thanks to the similarities with his native Italian.

Sometimes Skyler and Giuseppe resorted to the Google Translate app on their phones but, mostly, words didn’t seem to matter much that first night — or over the rest of the weekend. They communicated through their body language and their constant smiles and laughs in each other’s company said it all.

Skyler didn’t contemplate the future, didn’t daydream of a life with Giuseppe from the moment she met him — but she did enjoy letting herself embrace this unexpected vacation romance.

“I was very much in the moment,” Skyler recalls.

“I was just thinking, ‘This doesn’t happen to people like this. Is this how relationships can start and how people can meet?’ You know, it didn’t feel real.”

As for Giuseppe — who in 2014 was working as a personal trainer and studying economics — he says he knew, right away, he wanted Skyler to be in his life forever.

“For me, from the moment I saw her for the first time ever, I was in love. Literally, I was in love,” he tells CNN Travel today.

“We ended up making pasta at my friend’s house, we were watching the stars, eating the pasta. And then we spent the rest of the three days together. I introduced her to Rome, brought her to the most lovely and romantic places in Rome …”

When the weekend ended, Giuseppe was certain he and Skyler would see one another again. He didn’t worry about the distance or the end date on Skyler’s time in Europe. He was confident love would triumph.

A surprise invitation

Giuseppe grew up in the southwest of Italy, in Calabria — a region known for its beautiful coastline, Roman ruins and picturesque villages.

He loved returning to Calabria whenever he could. As soon as he met Skyler, Giuseppe started daydreaming about showing her around his home region and — most importantly — introducing her to his mother.

Giuseppe was close to both his parents, but his relationship with his mother was particularly tight. They talked regularly and she often visited him in Rome. Giuseppe gushed about Skyler to his mother immediately and she expressed interest in meeting the American woman who’d captured her son’s heart.

But for Skyler, the prospect of traveling across Italy to meet the mother of a guy she’d just met seemed a little unusual — possibly a little mad.

When Giuseppe proposed the idea over text, Skyler Googled the distance from Rome to Calabria by car: seven hours.

Uncertain what to do, Skyler ran the idea past her Barcelona roommates.

“We had a house meeting,” Skyler says. “There was a sit-down conversation.”

After running through all the pros and cons and potential pitfalls, the friends concluded Skyler should agree to Giuseppe’s proposition — on the condition that before she went to Calabria, Giuseppe should visit Skyler in Spain.

“We agreed he would come to Barcelona first and there would be someone else in the house, like the supervisor or the manager, basically, to make sure all was good,” Skyler recalls.

“And then if we hated him, we would kick him out. And I wouldn’t go to Italy.”

She texted Giuseppe her “terms”. He readily agreed and within a few weeks was ringing the doorbell to Skyler’s apartment.

Skyler’s female roommates left town for the weekend and her sole male roommate agreed to be the “supervisor”. The friends used the term jokingly, but Skyler was grateful he was there.

“It was actually perfect because there was another guy in the house — I thought, ‘He’ll be here, and it’ll be fine’,” Skyler recalls.

“And obviously, everything worked out. We all got along — Giuseppe ended up cooking for all of us and we would all hang out together. It was just such a fun time with the three of us.

“And then obviously Gisueppe and I would go out on dates and we spent time together alone. It was just a really fun time because he’d never been to Barcelona before.”

“I was so excited to see Skyler,” Giuseppe says.

“I was really in love. And we spent this time together which was an amazing experience. Traveling for love, it’s different — it’s something when it hits you, you’re willing to do anything.”

Skyler and Giuseppe spent the Barclona weekend wandering in and out of museums, admiring the half-built, imposing Sagrada Familia cathedral. By the end of the weekend, Skyler was excited at the prospect of driving across Italy with him.

“I felt much more comfortable because I got a sense of who he was as a person,” Skyler says.

She was still a little apprehensive about the idea of meeting Giuseppe’s parents so early on.

“I was certainly nervous,” she says.

“But you’re dealing with different cultures. ‘It’s just kind of what they do in their culture and so we’ll see what happens’ — that’s kind of how I saw it.”

A visit to Calabria

A couple of weeks later, Skyler flew to Rome and jumped in Giuseppe’s car to begin the long journey to the southern tip of Italy.

When the two arrived at Giuseppe’s parent’s house, it was night. Skyler got out the car and glanced around to get her bearings.

“I was standing on the front steps, I could see the water was really close because the moon was out so I could see a reflection of the water,” she recalls.

She asked Giuseppe if they were close to the sea, and he confirmed they were right on the waterfront.

Skyler was immediately excited — she grew up by the ocean in California and loved the beach.

But she also still felt a little apprehensive, She really wasn’t sure what it would be like meeting Giuseppe’s parents.

Then Giuseppe’s mother and father opened the door and warmly enveloped Skyler in a hug. Over the course of the evening, Giuseppe’s mother served plate after plate of delicious Calabrian food and Giuseppe’s father quietly chuckled as Skyler attempted — and failed — to decline the third and fourth helpings.

“My mother loved her from the beginning. My dad too. From that first day,” Giuseppe says.

“They saw me so happy and they thought this was the person we’d been waiting for.”

Giuseppe’s parents didn’t speak much English, but the group navigated the language barrier with humour and kindness.

The next morning, Skyler woke up to the smell of coffee and fresh pastries — Giuseppe’s father had cycled to the local bakery and bought them that morning. Skyler sat with her breakfast on the balcony and looked at the glistening sea stretching out before her.

“I saw the view of the water and it was spectacular.,” she says.

“It’s the Mediterranean, it’s the Ionian, it’s super-clean. California has beautiful beaches but nothing can compare to the Ionian Sea.”

It was the perfect start to the weekend. As well as spending time with Giuseppe’s parents, Skyler also met his extended family. And she enjoyed solo time with Giuseppe too — hanging out together in this peaceful spot was different to rushing around Rome and Barcelona, but just as special.

“I was able to better get to know him and see where he came from, and the stability that his parents had — and just better understand him,” Skyler says.

“That was really important, to me, to make sure he had somewhat of a good relationship with his family because I didn’t always have that with mine. And it was refreshing to see them all together and really getting along and all the cousins talking to each other and making jokes with one another.”

As the visit came to an end, the one word Skyler kept coming back to was “safe”. The love that emanated from Giuseppe’s parents’ house made her feel enveloped in safety.

“That’s the word, I felt very safe,” Skyler says.

“So it was the perfect place for us to get to know each other more.”

Long distance

Skyler and Giuseppe left Calabria with plans to meet again in Barcelona. By coincidence, Skyler’s mother was visiting Spain soon and Skyler figured this was an opportunity for Giuseppe to get a glimpse into her family.

It seemed only appropriate, given she’d just met pretty much all of Giuseppe’s family members.

“It was really fun,” Skyler recalls. “My mum really liked him.”

“We had dinner and it was so much fun,” Giuseppe says. “I had an incredible time.”

Giuseppe and Skyler stayed in touch, visiting one another in Rome and Barcelona. But before long, Skyler’s internship came to an end and she had to return to the US.

Giuseppe and Skyler hadn’t found travelling between Rome and Barcelona too bad, but Rome and California was much trickier.

“That was the hardest time because we had to go back and forth every three months from the United States and Italy,” Giuseppe says.

The two spent almost two years navigating a long-distance relationship. In time, they started discussing their longer-term future — they both wanted to get married, and Giuseppe said he was open to moving to the US. This became the goal.

In 2015, on a visit to the US, Giuseppe proposed to Skyler.

It was a low-key proposal — the couple were sitting on the couch together, side by side. For Skyler and Giuseppe, this intimacy was perfect. They enjoyed celebrating the news with a small engagement party with their loved ones and then they started navigating the red tape.

“Before we could even consider getting married, we had to go through the green card process, which is not a sexy process to do,” Skyler says.

Eventually, documents secured, Skyler and Giuseppe could look toward the future. They planned a small legal ceremony — with just Skyler’s mother and childhood best friend as witnesses — in 2016.

Soon after, they enjoyed a slightly bigger celebration at the spectacular Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco.

“It was gorgeous,” Skyler says.

“After, we went to a friend’s restaurant and we basically had the whole place to ourselves. A tiny restaurant, 16 of us. It was actually perfect. And then we went out after and we got cocktails and then we went back and stayed at a hotel in the city.”

During her wedding celebrations, Skyler says she felt waves of relief that the long distance was finally over — plus an overwhelming feeling of happiness and contentment as she looked ahead to a life with Giuseppe.

As for Giuseppe, he was glad to no longer be counting the days until they could reunite.

“To be able to be together and have a normal life without thinking about that, it was amazing,” he says.

Life partners and business partners

For Giuseppe, California felt like home right away — largely because Skyler was there.

A lifelong foodie, Giuseppe also really enjoyed sampling California’s varied food scene. He just had one complaint: the lack of Calabrian olive oil.

Giuseppe couldn’t believe it when he first went to the grocery store and realised there were no olive oil options from southern Italy, let alone his home region.

“He asked his mum to send olive oil from Calabria to the US,” Skyler recalls.

“And then all our friends were like, ‘Oh, can they send us some too?’.”

As their friends raved about the Calabrian oil, Skyler and Giuseppe started wondering if there was a gap in the market they could help fill.

In time, this first spark of an idea became EXAU Olive Oil — a successful olive oil company operated by Giuseppe and Skyler.

Since their brand premiered on US grocery store shelves, life’s been a whirlwind for the couple.

Oprah Winfrey spotlighted the oil in her Favourite Things column. Skyler ended up on the 2021 Forbes 30 Under 30 list. Skyler and Giuseppe wrote a book together, called The Olive Oil Enthusiast. The couple left the US and relocated to Calabria to oversee farming and producing.

Today, Skyler and Giuseppe live in Calabria, in a house by the Ionian Sea, surrounded by the beautiful olive trees that produce their oil. They still travel back to the US both to visit loved ones and to check in with EXAU Olive Oil’s US headquarters in Texas.

For Skyler and Giuseppe, becoming successful business owners strengthened their already solid connection.

“Us building this business together and growing our relationship — and our love growing stronger over the years — has created a bond that is indescribable,” Skyler says.

“We can’t really describe it to people because we’re together not only romantically, we’re best friends, we’re together 24/7, and we also work together. So we’re very, very, very close.”

Skyler and Giuseppe’s move to Italy also coincided with Giuseppe’s father falling ill. He passed away in early 2024.

“It was really a blessing for us to be able to spend his last few years with him,” Skyler says.

Giuseppe says his father’s passing has been really hard, but he’s grateful Skyler has been by his side. In fact, he credits all the “beautiful things in our life” to Skyler.

“Her love has created a relationship that’s so stable, I’m very fortunate,” he says.

Skyler and Giuseppe no longer communicate via Google Translate — Giuseppe speaks English, and Skyler speaks Italian, and at home they cycle between the two languages.

Skyler suggests their early days with a language barrier established a strong foundation and good communication — there was little room for nuance, or being vague. That’s proven essential as they navigate life together.

“You have to be transparent and clear,” she says.

A decade on from their first meeting in Rome, Skyler and Giuseppe find it emotional to reflect on everything they’ve been through, and everything they’ve achieved together.

“I wouldn’t have started EXAU, our olive oil company, if we hadn’t met just that day … I just feel happy. I feel like life is very well-rounded,” Skyler says.

“I’m not a religious person, but I am spiritual. I definitely believe that my grandma, my great grandma, my ancestors are watching me. And they’re kind of guiding me through life.

“And I think that I was guided towards Giuseppe that night — like we were supposed to meet so I could experience this type of love and relationship.”